Tuesday, January 20, 2015


dis·par·i·ty  noun 1. The condition or fact of being unequal, as in age, rank, or degree; difference: 2. Unlikeness; incongruity
It usually starts small.
A twinge of frustration that comes up out of the blue.  A fleeting moment of sadness for no discernable reason.  A vague feeling of regret that’s almost always there, lurking, somewhere in the back of your mind.  Sometimes you feel a little off and you don’t quite know why.  Something’s just not right, but you don’t quite know what it is.
You might get lucky one day and be confronted with what’s bothering you (though that event might not feel terribly lucky at the time).  That nagging little voice suddenly is suddenly right in your face and you are seeing, in living color and full relief, just what’s been nagging at you.  Whatever the case, you realize that your life is not in harmony with what it should be, could be or with who you are.  You have a disparity. Your life is not congruent with what it could be.
Those uncomfortable feelings (and rest assured… they will grow over time) are a strong sign that it’s time to change.  They are definitive signals that it’s time to get out of your comfort zone and onto the next level.  

in·er·tia: (noun)  1. Physics The tendency of a body to resist acceleration; the tendency of a body at rest to remain at rest or of a body in straight line motion to stay in motion in a straight line unless acted on by an outside force.  2. Resistance or disinclination to motion, action, or change.
There’s a problem, though.  You’ve been in that comfort zone of yours for so long you’re finding it almost impossible to get off the launch pad.  You feel overwhelmed.  You don’t know what to do or where start.  You’re finding it almost impossible to move your tachometer off zero.  
Inertia is at hand.  And inertia is a bitch.  It’s like cement overshoes in a mafia movie.  It weighs you down until you feel like you can’t move forward or even stand.  Even worse, inertia sneaks up on you, as if you’re the proverbial lobster in a stockpot of boiling water. You don’t realize what’s happening until it’s almost too late (note the almost).  One day you wake up and find your precious comfort zone has shrunk to the point that it’s as constricting as a straight jacket.
That’s the bad news.  I have some good news for you, though.  Since inertia is largely a state of mind, it is controllable and changeable.  Make no mistake, rising above it won’t be easy.  It may take everything you’ve got and then some.  This is also good news, because you’ll finally get to find out just what you’re made of… and if you truly give this your all, you’ll quickly learn that you’ve been selling yourself short, probably for a good long time.
It’s time for a revolution.  It’s time for your revolution.

rev•o•lu•tion (noun) 1. a complete and forcible overthrow and replacement of an established government or political system by the people governed.  2. a sudden, complete, or radical change in something.
No, I’m not talking about setting up a bloody coup d'etat to overthrow a government.  What I do mean is a radical change in your own established order.  Whatever you’re doing now is not working, so it stands to reason that you need to run your life in a radically different way.
The first thing you’ll need to do is get in touch with your motivation, both good and bad.  We all understand so-called ”good motivation.  I’m all about encouragement and positivity, both of which have a place here (we’ll get to that a little later).  Right now, though, it’s time to channel your inner bad ass and call in the psychological shock troops. Make your negative emotions work for you rather than against you.
What do I mean?  Delve into your regret, both in what’s already passed you by and what will if you don’t get off your ass.  Get mad. Get furious.  And use it all.
  • Think about the promotion you didn’t get because you failed to give your all at work.
  • Think about the relationship that died because you were afraid of getting hurt.
  • Think about the dream you keep putting on hold because your fear of failure continues to hold you back.
  • Think about how you’ll feel a year from now if you don’t step up and give it your all.
  • Etc.
  • Etc.
  • Etc.
Getting a little agitated right about now?  Maybe a little pissed off? Good. Let’s keep going.
Now think about those people who pushed you around and put you down.  Are you going to let them:
  • Keep doing whatever it is they’re doing to you?
  • Are you still going to feel bad about it, thereby continuing to let them run your life?
Let’s consider what you’ve had enough of in your life.  Think about what you’re sick of:
  • Being poor.
  • Being out of shape.
  • Wasting time on things and people that don’t matter.
  • Saying you’re going to do things and never doing them.
  • Wasting your potential and living a life that’s ten steps or more below what you deserve.
  • Missing out on opportunities.
  • How your comfort zone has gotten smaller and smaller over the years.
  • How your standards have slowly slipped.
Now let’s shift into a more positive mode.  
  • Who are you?  Are you the kind of person that just gives up and lives a mediocre life?  I think you know the answer to that.
  • What do you want? What do really, really want, so bad you can taste it?
  • When do you want it?  I mean specifically.  Spoiler alert: someday is not an acceptable answer.
  • Where are you now? Do a brutally honest assessment of your current situation, in all spheres of your life.
  • Why do you want it?  What truly drives you, what motivates you from deep inside your core?
  • How are you going to get there?
Take your what, your when and your how and start making a detailed plan.  Then you need to aggressively execute that plan.  No, I’m not talking about some vague blob of words like “I want to rich” or “I want to lose weight” or “I want to be happy”.  Definitive goals, clearly stated:
  • I will lose 20 pounds by a certain date.
  • I will save up $xxx by xxx date.
  • I will publish xxxx by xxxx date.
Take each goal.  Break it down into teeny little bite-sized pieces.  Knock it down a hunk at a time on a consistent basis.  Yes, I know we’ve all heard this before, but apparently there are those among us that need a reminder.  

re·spon·si·bil·i·ty (noun) 1. the state or position of being responsible 2. a person or thing for which one is responsible 3. the ability or authority to act or decide on one's own, without supervision
I’m going to ask you to do something hard now.  I’m going to ask you to take responsibility.
Sure, it’s not your fault that your significant other left you high and dry, emptying out your bank account in the process.  It’s not your fault that your parents constantly put you down and made mincemeat out of your self-esteem before you even hit puberty.  It’s not your fault… but it’s still your responsibility to overcome whatever it was and move past it.  Even if you played no sort of role in whatever happened, you still have the responsibility to:
  1. Choose your reaction.
  2. Deal with it. Deal with your emotions and deal with the situation.
  3. Or better yet, use it to make you a better, stronger person. Turn that bitterness into some anger that you can use to fuel your own personal revolution.  Turn that anger into the positive forward motion that will enable you overcome that inertia

In the end, it’s past time to go all out and get the life you know you deserve… as it’s so often said, if not now, then when?  If things are rough, if you’ve been knocked down one too many times… it’s time to take back your life.  Start your revolution today.